Friday, May 18, 2012
Dream Squashers and Fire Ignited!
I had a very interesting revelation the other day. I was working on a new marketing project for the ministry and had to submit database information from the contacts I’ve had since being in ministry full time. It was a time consuming project – but something I needed to do. For a couple of days, I went through contact after contact, putting it in a format to be used for our database.
This is actually the first time I have done any “official” type of marketing in seven years. Most of my conferences come from word of mouth and referrals. As I was going through past information, I ran across emails with announcements for events I sponsored, testimonials, etc. It was wonderful re-experiencing the ministry start up and appreciating how things have grown.
As I reflected on the early days, I remembered waking up in the middle of the night to write down ideas. I remember the passion and excitement involved. As I thought about this time, I realized that while the past eight years have been very fulfilling, there was something missing. It was my drive to accomplish what God wanted me to accomplish.
This passion to teach women through conferences has been a long time dream. I remember sitting in meetings while in my full-time job wondering when I would be able to teach like I felt God was calling me to teach. It’s as if my heart would ache to be able to realize my dream. However, I also knew that I was in the process of being prepared for the next step. That preparation time was critical – but really painful. I have always hated waiting. I would often think, “When, Father…when do I get to do what you’ve called me to do???”
I was still in my “holding pattern” when God spoke to me about being ready. I was taking some time off from work to heal from a surgical procedure I needed. Weeks before the surgery, the Lord said, “I’m going to open doors for you, Stephanie.” I became interested in this word, but I cannot say that I believed this word. I guess my zeal began to dissipate and I started to believe that this dream would never become a reality. To be honest, I didn’t take this word seriously at all.
While recovering at home, I received a phone call from a Pastor friend of mine. He asked me if I was available to teach a women’s conference at his church. I was excited and of course said, “Yes!” When I hung up the phone, I thought, “Wow! That was weird! What a coincidence!” No sooner did that thought leave my mind when the Holy Spirit spoke to my heart and said, “Stephanie, didn’t I tell you I was going to open doors for you?” I was quiet as I reflected on the word God had spoken to me weeks prior. The Holy Spirit then said, “You need to stop pretending to be something other than what I’ve called you to be. Walk in a manner worthy of your calling.” That word stung. I knew that the Lord was speaking about my nonchalant attitude regarding the calling He placed on my life. I made up my mind that from this point forward to be obedient and to “walk in a manner worthy of my calling”. I had no idea how God was going to put the ministry together, but I had an idea of what it would look like once in motion. It was the same vision I had for several years.
What I didn’t know is that God would call me to begin this ministry as a single woman. Three weeks after this encounter, my husband of almost 19 years died very suddenly from an aggressive form of leukemia. My world was rocked to say the least. In my realization of a new world I was living, I believed that my dream died also. I could not even imagine how God would use anything from this time of grief for good. And, to be honest, I didn’t want the dream anymore. I really thought that my calling died and I wasn’t interested in resurrecting it.
About a year into God’s healing of grief, He began to speak to my heart again about “walking in a manner worthy of my calling”. I remember saying to the Lord, “Haven’t I done enough hard things already? I mean, seriously?” God continued to speak telling me to trust Him, rely on faith and fulfill His calling in my life. Saying that I was resistant hardly expresses how I felt. After many months, I finally said, “Okay – I will trust you!” The Lord directed me to resign my full time job and begin the ministry. Let me point out at this time I had no conferences scheduled. I had nothing. But, through the months of God speaking to my heart, He ignited the fire of passion in my heart. I have to say, it was the hardest thing I felt God requiring me to do.
I resigned from my job and spent time in prayer for the doors God promised to open. The first thing I did was establish a prayer team. God placed several friends on my heart to be part of this team. Within two days, I had a conference booking, a radio interview and a television programming opportunity. I was shocked! God was not. I realized that I could trust the Lord to open doors and provide for me.
I had a vision of reaching un-churched women. God gave me a vision of hosting events and inviting women, teaching on a topic relevant to women that was fun and sharing the gospel so they, too, could become daughters of God. Again, doors of opportunity began to open. I was still very fragile in my trust and didn’t know who, if anyone would show up at these events. I would wake up during the night to plan, study, dream and send invitations to women God was placing on my heart.
These events were unbelievably successful. Women who attended would bring friends and family who did not have a personal relationship with Christ. At the end of every event, many women gave their hearts to Christ. It was an exciting time. Through this, God continued to heal my heart and show me that there is life after grief. I was doing what I dreamed although it looked quite differently than I planned. It was amazing! The events continued to grow and more women experienced Christ for the first time. From these events, I had the opportunity to disciple new Christians at a separate event. As the ministry grew, the word spread and the doors God opened was incredible. I was in shock – but having the time of my life.
While I had many people in my life who were so supportive, I was surprised and shocked to learn that there were some who were anything but supportive. Anyone who has ever put themselves “out there” to do something different knows that zeal can be accompanied by people who want to squash your dreams, sadly. The “dream squashers” in my life were people that surprised me the most. I had one “squasher” actually tell me, “I am waiting for you to fail.” I had others who were actually jealous of the success the ministry was realizing. Some "squashers" stopped speaking to me or would talk behind my back in order to discredit the ministry. I was devastated. Those crushing words and actions really knocked the wind from my sails for a very long time.
I haven’t thought about these series of events until I was doing this simple database work this week. This realization impacted me on a very deep level. While the ministry has continued to grow and thrive for eight years since these crushing actions, I realized that the fire ignited many years ago has never quite been the same. I’m speaking more about a deep undercurrent where the fear of failure has kept me from being zealous to accomplish many things. I sat quietly and reflected on this and thought, “Where is that fire? Where is that passion? I remember it and I want it back!” It saddened me on many levels, but more challenged me.
As I write this blog, it is 4:11am. I have returned to waking up in the middle of night to pray, hear from God and dream again. I’ve realized that the passion God gave me has not moved. I have had to allow God to uproot the words of destruction and choose to focus on God’s calling rather than live out other people’s words of weakness.
Eight years later, I can say that I am so blessed to be surrounded by people who also dream big, step out in faith for the impossible. I have an amazing husband who has always believed in me. I serve with godly women who are a great support and are boldly fulfilling their own destinies. I’m so thankful for the reminder this week that the Word of the Lord is more powerful than the words of the “squashers.”
What about your passion? What has God called you to do? Are you in process of being prepared for His plan? Who is surrounding you? Are they people of faith and wisdom? Have the actions of others kept you from realizing all God has planned?
God has an amazing destiny for you! Let me encourage you to fan the flame inside your heart and run after God’s best for you. Leave the past in the past and “ press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called you in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 3:14 NIV).
Let me hear how God is speaking to you!
Praying for you –
Steph
Monday, April 2, 2012
Sole Testimonies!
SOLE Testimonies!
Several years ago, I began focusing my conference teaching in the area of realizing one’s personal destiny from the Lord. It has been so exciting to have conference girlfriends share with me, even years later, how they have realized God’s plan for their lives and have begun to “walk” out that plan…in stilettos, of course!
Colossians 1:10, “to walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to him, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God.”
Personally, this teaching really came to a deeper truth when my son, James, was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s lymphoma two years ago. I found my “walk” taking me to places I never thought I would go and never wanted to go–especially not with one of my children. What I’ve come to understand in much greater depth is this: Our destiny is not designed by us, but designed by God. While there may be some turns in the road that we don’t expect, it doesn’t mean that God’s plan for us has suddenly changed. God’ plan for us is, in fact, being realized as we walk in obedience, strength, trust and faith though the hard places in the journey.
The morning of our first visit with James’ doctor at Rocky Mountain Cancer Center, I really wanted to wear my pajamas, put my hair in a ponytail and wear flip flops! I was hurting. Our world had been rocked by James’ diagnosis and I honestly wanted to lie on the floor and cry. However, while I was getting dressed, the Lord reminded me of His plan for my life – and for James as well. He spoke to me and said, “Walk in a manner worthy of your calling, Stephanie”. In other words, the plans of the Lord had not changed. He was still in control and at work. I considered this truth and then selected a pair of leopard stilettos to wear to the cancer center! My reasoning? I wanted the enemy to realize that no matter what, we were going to trust God and trust His plan, even if we didn’t understand the circumstance. My stilettos were a reminder of this truth.
For the past two years, I have worn my high heels to doctor’s appointments, chemotherapy appointments, tests, scans, and even during a three week stay during James' bone marrow transplant in the hospital. Me, my stilettos and focus on God’s promise over my destiny and the destiny of my son as well has become the norm of our season.
Recently, I’ve added another element of my stiletto-destiny-walk! In II Samuel, David writes about his stance with his enemy, Saul, and the victory God gave him. David reminds us of the truth that his enemy,and our enemy alike, resides in the same place - under our feet!
II Samuel 22: 34-41:“He makes my feet like hinds’ feet, And sets me on my high places. He trains my hands for battle, So that my arms can bend a bow of bronze. You have also given me the shield of Your salvation, And Your help makes me great. You enlarge my steps under me, And my feet have not slipped. I pursued my enemies and destroyed them, And I did not turn back until they were consumed. And I have devoured them and shattered them, so that they did not rise; And they fell under my feet. “Under my feet” translated means, “under my subjection or rule”.
While meditating on this scripture, I found a sharpie pen and decided to write letters on the bottom of my shoe. I wanted to make sure that the enemy (who is under my feet) could read my message loud and clear! My first message was “C.B.G”, which stands for “Cancer - Be Gone!” The second message I wrote was “W.O.M.D.” which stands for “Walking Out My Destiny!” It may sound silly to some, but to have a tangible way to “walk” in victory and with the promises God inscribed has been a powerful tool in my life!
I’ve encouraged other women who are also facing trials to write similar messages on the soles of their shoes! There have been situations where friends are going through terrible circumstances at work who have written scripture about being a daughter of God on their shoes. There are others who battle fear who have inscribed scriptures about faith. It has turned into a really compelling theme! It makes me so excited to see others standing in victory over situations that otherwise could be devastating. God’s word is SO powerful!
I’ve decided that it would be a fun project to compile these testimonies and photos of shoes into a devotional called, “SOLE Testimonies”. It will feature photos and stories of other courageous women who are walking out their destiny – no matter what!
Are you walking through something that seems impossible? Do you feel overwhelmed by life? Are you experiencing difficulty in a particularly tough season? Or, are you standing in the gap for someone else’s burden? Write your message on the bottom of your shoe and walk out your destiny! Refuse the temptation to feel defeated or forgotten in your circumstance. God has an amazing plan for your life! He has equipped you, empowered you and gifted you to handle this season.
Walk out YOUR destiny…in stilettos…and with a strong message of victory! Send me your photo and testimony! It would be an honor to pray you through your time and see how God works!
In my stilettos!
Steph
Monday, January 23, 2012
Getting Off the Ride and Walking In Victory!
What if we imagined the work of the enemy in the form of an amusement park? This park would be filled all sort of rides and games such as the “Roller Coaster of Insecurity”, “Tilt-My-World with Fear”, “The Bumper Cars of Dysfunction”, “House of Mirrors Reflecting My Past”. While it was never our intention to visit the park, there is something about the rides that just feels comfortable. We step up to the counter and say, “One ticket to the Roller Coaster of Insecurity, please!” We buy our ticket, get on the ride, buckle in as best we can and hope we make it to the end of the ride.
This might sound ridiculous to some. But being a person who has not only bought a ticket in the past, I think I might have held season tickets to some of these “attractions”.
One of the platforms I feel passionate about is seeing women set free from the past and walk out the destiny God has planned for them…in stilettos, of course! I have met literally thousands who struggle with overcoming the past and realizing that God’s heart is for them to live victoriously. Just as important is the realization that we are daughters of God. We are His girls. He loves us. We have such a hard time really embracing both of these truths.
As I was meditating on this, the Lord gave me a visual of an amusement park with the rides I shared above. Not only do we feel comfortable in this type of “park”, we purchase tickets and believe we have to revisit the past over and again in order to really overcome. Weapons from the enemy such as fear, insecurity, shame, guilt, regret, etc., etc. are typically present in this cycle. Not only do we accept this cycle, we choose to then become identified by it.
For instance, when someone who struggles in this area introduces themselves to me they might say, “Hi, my name is _____, I’ve been divorced for ten years”. It’s almost as if “I’ve-been-divorced-for-ten-years” becomes their last name. This always makes me sad because it’s as if they have to reveal their feeling of failure so I won’t judge them. The truth is they are continually judging themselves and have allowed this feeling to failure to become their identity.
Isaiah 43:18-19 (AMP)
18Do not [earnestly] remember the former things; neither consider the things of old. 19Behold, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs forth; do you not perceive and know it and will you not give heed to it? I will even make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.
God is the creator. He is about creating newness and bringing life. He's also the God of forgiveness from our past. He can heal and bring new life from our past. The hard part is our ability to truly take steps to release the past and experience His healing.
If there is something / someone to forgive:then forgive and move on. If there is a relationship that needs healing: pray about it, do what God says and then wait. If you feel badly about your self- image: then act! If there are traumas or more in-depth healing that is needed, seek wise counsel for help. Instead of being comfortable in these areas which bear no fruit – decide to embrace the freedom that comes with forgiveness, walking out your destiny and loving others and yourself! It’s the way God intended us to behave because He loves us and died for us to have this freedom.
And, when the enemy offers a ticket to one of his emotional roller coasters of the past, instead of buckling in and trying to endure the ride – refuse the offer and walk in freedom. Pretty soon the acceptance of grace will become the new way of life.
Stephanie Henderson
Stephanie Henderson Ministries
www.stephaniehendersonministries.com
This might sound ridiculous to some. But being a person who has not only bought a ticket in the past, I think I might have held season tickets to some of these “attractions”.
One of the platforms I feel passionate about is seeing women set free from the past and walk out the destiny God has planned for them…in stilettos, of course! I have met literally thousands who struggle with overcoming the past and realizing that God’s heart is for them to live victoriously. Just as important is the realization that we are daughters of God. We are His girls. He loves us. We have such a hard time really embracing both of these truths.
As I was meditating on this, the Lord gave me a visual of an amusement park with the rides I shared above. Not only do we feel comfortable in this type of “park”, we purchase tickets and believe we have to revisit the past over and again in order to really overcome. Weapons from the enemy such as fear, insecurity, shame, guilt, regret, etc., etc. are typically present in this cycle. Not only do we accept this cycle, we choose to then become identified by it.
For instance, when someone who struggles in this area introduces themselves to me they might say, “Hi, my name is _____, I’ve been divorced for ten years”. It’s almost as if “I’ve-been-divorced-for-ten-years” becomes their last name. This always makes me sad because it’s as if they have to reveal their feeling of failure so I won’t judge them. The truth is they are continually judging themselves and have allowed this feeling to failure to become their identity.
Isaiah 43:18-19 (AMP)
18Do not [earnestly] remember the former things; neither consider the things of old. 19Behold, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs forth; do you not perceive and know it and will you not give heed to it? I will even make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.
God is the creator. He is about creating newness and bringing life. He's also the God of forgiveness from our past. He can heal and bring new life from our past. The hard part is our ability to truly take steps to release the past and experience His healing.
If there is something / someone to forgive:then forgive and move on. If there is a relationship that needs healing: pray about it, do what God says and then wait. If you feel badly about your self- image: then act! If there are traumas or more in-depth healing that is needed, seek wise counsel for help. Instead of being comfortable in these areas which bear no fruit – decide to embrace the freedom that comes with forgiveness, walking out your destiny and loving others and yourself! It’s the way God intended us to behave because He loves us and died for us to have this freedom.
And, when the enemy offers a ticket to one of his emotional roller coasters of the past, instead of buckling in and trying to endure the ride – refuse the offer and walk in freedom. Pretty soon the acceptance of grace will become the new way of life.
Stephanie Henderson
Stephanie Henderson Ministries
www.stephaniehendersonministries.com
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
Forgive and Forget??
Happy New Year! We hope your Christmas and New Year holidays were
memorable. We enjoyed much family time and peace.
Today I'm sharing a piece from one of the new conference series I'm
teaching this year and the book that I'm writing called, "Forgiving
Him...Forgiving Myself" A Journey of Deepening Intimacy in
Relationships. While we are all considering our New Year's
resolutions, forgiving past hurts is a great place to start! Why not
begin this year with a heart of forgiveness?
I'm very excited about this new conference series and this writing
adventure. Writing is a a little intimidating for me because because
grammatical sentence structure is not my forte! But...that's what
editors are for and I am thankful for having a great one. :)
Steph
Forgiving Him…Forgiving Myself
“I believe I’ve learned the most about forgiveness by personally
applying it to the people I thought deserved it the least”.
-Stephanie Henderson
Let’s be honest, there are some people who, we feel don’t deserve our
forgiveness. They have said or done the ultimate sin; they have
crossed the line once too many times and have brought undeserved pain
into the lives of others. We make statements such as, “They should
not be allowed to breathe air!” At the moment of such intense hurt,
we can feel steadfast in one thought, “I will NEVER forgive them nor
will I EVER forget what they’ve done”.
Forgiveness is tough. Period. While this statement rings true, we
also have to realize the ultimate importance forgiveness plays in
moving forward in healing from our past.
You and I have both read or heard, “forgiveness is two-sided”. I
agree that two-sided forgiveness is the best outcome from unfortunate
circumstances. However, biblical forgiveness is actually one-sided.
In order to exercise biblical forgiveness, I (me, myself and I) must
choose to forgive whether the other party ever chooses to reconcile
the relationship or not. Ouch! It’s one sided.
Matthew 5:44 - But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those
who persecute you,
Matthew 5:45 - that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. He
causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the
righteous and the unrighteous.
Matthew 6:14 - For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your
heavenly Father will also forgive you.
Mark 11:25 - And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against
anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you
your sins.
Romans 12:20 - On the contrary: "If your enemy is hungry, feed him, if
he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will
heap burning coals on his head.
Luke 6:35 - But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them
without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be
great, and you will be sons of the Most High, because he is kind to
the ungrateful and wicked.
Luke 6:36 - Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.
Luke 6:37 - "Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not
condemn, and you will not be condemned.
Luke 6:38 - Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure,
pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into
your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."
Proverb 20:22 - Do not say, "I'll pay you back for this wrong!" Wait
for the Lord, and he will deliver you.
-Excerpt from "Forgiving Him...Forgiving Myself"
*Stephanie Henderson
memorable. We enjoyed much family time and peace.
Today I'm sharing a piece from one of the new conference series I'm
teaching this year and the book that I'm writing called, "Forgiving
Him...Forgiving Myself" A Journey of Deepening Intimacy in
Relationships. While we are all considering our New Year's
resolutions, forgiving past hurts is a great place to start! Why not
begin this year with a heart of forgiveness?
I'm very excited about this new conference series and this writing
adventure. Writing is a a little intimidating for me because because
grammatical sentence structure is not my forte! But...that's what
editors are for and I am thankful for having a great one. :)
Steph
Forgiving Him…Forgiving Myself
“I believe I’ve learned the most about forgiveness by personally
applying it to the people I thought deserved it the least”.
-Stephanie Henderson
Let’s be honest, there are some people who, we feel don’t deserve our
forgiveness. They have said or done the ultimate sin; they have
crossed the line once too many times and have brought undeserved pain
into the lives of others. We make statements such as, “They should
not be allowed to breathe air!” At the moment of such intense hurt,
we can feel steadfast in one thought, “I will NEVER forgive them nor
will I EVER forget what they’ve done”.
Forgiveness is tough. Period. While this statement rings true, we
also have to realize the ultimate importance forgiveness plays in
moving forward in healing from our past.
You and I have both read or heard, “forgiveness is two-sided”. I
agree that two-sided forgiveness is the best outcome from unfortunate
circumstances. However, biblical forgiveness is actually one-sided.
In order to exercise biblical forgiveness, I (me, myself and I) must
choose to forgive whether the other party ever chooses to reconcile
the relationship or not. Ouch! It’s one sided.
Matthew 5:44 - But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those
who persecute you,
Matthew 5:45 - that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. He
causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the
righteous and the unrighteous.
Matthew 6:14 - For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your
heavenly Father will also forgive you.
Mark 11:25 - And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against
anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you
your sins.
Romans 12:20 - On the contrary: "If your enemy is hungry, feed him, if
he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will
heap burning coals on his head.
Luke 6:35 - But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them
without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be
great, and you will be sons of the Most High, because he is kind to
the ungrateful and wicked.
Luke 6:36 - Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.
Luke 6:37 - "Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not
condemn, and you will not be condemned.
Luke 6:38 - Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure,
pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into
your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."
Proverb 20:22 - Do not say, "I'll pay you back for this wrong!" Wait
for the Lord, and he will deliver you.
-Excerpt from "Forgiving Him...Forgiving Myself"
*Stephanie Henderson
Sunday, December 11, 2011
"Tis the Season! A Message for Those Hurting During the Holidays.
Christmas is quickly approaching! Our holiday decor is almost complete! Our last bit of decorating will be on our Christmas tree, which will be purchased this next week.
I mentioned to James that I thought I would purchase matching pj's for the family to wear on Christmas Eve, then maybe have an ornament decorating activity for everyone. I wanted to know what he thought of my idea. He listened, then paused and said, "Yes, then maybe we can jump into the time-machine and go back to 1991?" We laughed together and I have since nixed the pj idea. (George will also be relieved!)
While I am a tad overly enthusiastic about the upcoming Christmas season, I do realize there are some, for which this holiday will be painful. I have several friends who have experienced loss this year and the thought of the upcoming holidays can be overwhelming.
The word of God says, "Weeping may endure for the night - but joy comes in the morning" Psalm 30:5. There are seasons where I've wept and others where I have rejoiced! Having wept through holidays myself, my heart becomes more aware of those who may be experiencing sadness / grief this year. I am encouraged with what the Bible says about those who are broken-hearted.
Psalm 34:18
The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.
Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own
understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make
straight your paths.
Psalm 147:3
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
Psalm 73:26
My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart
and my portion forever.
Revelation 21:4
He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no
more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore,
for the former things have passed away.”
Isaiah 41:10
Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I
will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my
righteous right hand.
John 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives
do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be
afraid.
2 Corinthians 12:9
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is
made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly
of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
Psalm 55:22
Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never
permit the righteous to be moved.
As we are all preparing for celebrating Jesus' birth, let us be sensitive to those who may need a word of encouragement, a hug, a special gift or simply a kind word. I am so thankful for the "joy" that comes in the morning.
May the Lord richly bless you all!
Much love,
Steph
--
*Stephanie Henderson
www.stephaniehendersonministries.com*
I mentioned to James that I thought I would purchase matching pj's for the family to wear on Christmas Eve, then maybe have an ornament decorating activity for everyone. I wanted to know what he thought of my idea. He listened, then paused and said, "Yes, then maybe we can jump into the time-machine and go back to 1991?" We laughed together and I have since nixed the pj idea. (George will also be relieved!)
While I am a tad overly enthusiastic about the upcoming Christmas season, I do realize there are some, for which this holiday will be painful. I have several friends who have experienced loss this year and the thought of the upcoming holidays can be overwhelming.
The word of God says, "Weeping may endure for the night - but joy comes in the morning" Psalm 30:5. There are seasons where I've wept and others where I have rejoiced! Having wept through holidays myself, my heart becomes more aware of those who may be experiencing sadness / grief this year. I am encouraged with what the Bible says about those who are broken-hearted.
Psalm 34:18
The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.
Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own
understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make
straight your paths.
Psalm 147:3
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
Psalm 73:26
My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart
and my portion forever.
Revelation 21:4
He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no
more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore,
for the former things have passed away.”
Isaiah 41:10
Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I
will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my
righteous right hand.
John 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives
do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be
afraid.
2 Corinthians 12:9
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is
made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly
of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
Psalm 55:22
Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never
permit the righteous to be moved.
As we are all preparing for celebrating Jesus' birth, let us be sensitive to those who may need a word of encouragement, a hug, a special gift or simply a kind word. I am so thankful for the "joy" that comes in the morning.
May the Lord richly bless you all!
Much love,
Steph
--
*Stephanie Henderson
www.stephaniehendersonministries.com*
Wednesday, December 7, 2011
Students, Hope, Encouragement and Promises!
Romans 15:4
"Such things were written in the Scriptures long ago to teach us. And the Scriptures give us hope and encouragement as we wait patiently for God's promises to be fulfilled."
What a powerful scripture! There are several truths captured within this one verse.
1) We are students
The older I become, the more I realize how little I actually know! The scriptures given long ago were given to teach us. They teach us who God is, what His character contains, and how to become more like Him - and so much more!
A few years ago, I was introduced to inductive Bible study by very dear friends, Vic and Carolyn Talbert. Vic and Carolyn are veterans in studying the word of God and I respect them so much. Vic invited me to attend a training of inductive study at Precept Ministries in Chattanooga, Tennessee. Kay Arthur has led this ministry for years and given her life to teach others how to study the Word of God. I was excited to have this opportunity.
After about 30 minutes of my first class at Precept, I was elated and touched by the depth in the Word of God that I was taught. I have been reading the Bible since elementary school - but had never heard it taught so simply and yet so richly before. There were texts that I have read literally hundreds of times that suddenly came to life when studying this way. Learning to study inductively has single-handedly transformed not on the way I study but the way I teach in my conferences.
2) The scriptures give us hope and encouragement
We need hope and encouragement! It is so refreshing to know that no matter what I may face, God's Word has already spoken and provided hope / encouragement for my life. Not only that, knowing His Word provides opportunity to speak hope / encouragement into the lives of others.
3) We wait patiently for God's promises to be fulfilled.
I'm not the best at waiting patiently, I must confess. I would like the result now rather than later, please! However, when we exercise patience we are building our character and building trust in the promises of God. It's normal to have an ebb and flow of trust while waiting on God. Some moments I wonder, "will God come through?" and then other moments I have resounding, "Yes! God you are able!" resonating in my heart. The trust factor that is built while waiting teaches me to depend on the Word of God and not circumstances which in turn, brings spiritual maturity that I need.
I love that this scripture says, "God promises TO BE fulfilled" and not, "God's promises MAY BE fulfilled". We can take God at His word and have confidence that He is a man of integrity and will come through with what He's promised. I am so thankful for this.
Are you waiting on a promise to be fulfilled? Do you need the hope and encouragement that comes from the scriptures? Do you need to be a more diligent student in the Word of God?
You have all been so faithful to pray for our family. How can we pray for you??
We love you and are thankful for your prayers, love and concern. We are waiting on the promises of God to be fulfilled in healing our sweet son. Thank you for standing with us.
Steph
"Such things were written in the Scriptures long ago to teach us. And the Scriptures give us hope and encouragement as we wait patiently for God's promises to be fulfilled."
What a powerful scripture! There are several truths captured within this one verse.
1) We are students
The older I become, the more I realize how little I actually know! The scriptures given long ago were given to teach us. They teach us who God is, what His character contains, and how to become more like Him - and so much more!
A few years ago, I was introduced to inductive Bible study by very dear friends, Vic and Carolyn Talbert. Vic and Carolyn are veterans in studying the word of God and I respect them so much. Vic invited me to attend a training of inductive study at Precept Ministries in Chattanooga, Tennessee. Kay Arthur has led this ministry for years and given her life to teach others how to study the Word of God. I was excited to have this opportunity.
After about 30 minutes of my first class at Precept, I was elated and touched by the depth in the Word of God that I was taught. I have been reading the Bible since elementary school - but had never heard it taught so simply and yet so richly before. There were texts that I have read literally hundreds of times that suddenly came to life when studying this way. Learning to study inductively has single-handedly transformed not on the way I study but the way I teach in my conferences.
2) The scriptures give us hope and encouragement
We need hope and encouragement! It is so refreshing to know that no matter what I may face, God's Word has already spoken and provided hope / encouragement for my life. Not only that, knowing His Word provides opportunity to speak hope / encouragement into the lives of others.
3) We wait patiently for God's promises to be fulfilled.
I'm not the best at waiting patiently, I must confess. I would like the result now rather than later, please! However, when we exercise patience we are building our character and building trust in the promises of God. It's normal to have an ebb and flow of trust while waiting on God. Some moments I wonder, "will God come through?" and then other moments I have resounding, "Yes! God you are able!" resonating in my heart. The trust factor that is built while waiting teaches me to depend on the Word of God and not circumstances which in turn, brings spiritual maturity that I need.
I love that this scripture says, "God promises TO BE fulfilled" and not, "God's promises MAY BE fulfilled". We can take God at His word and have confidence that He is a man of integrity and will come through with what He's promised. I am so thankful for this.
Are you waiting on a promise to be fulfilled? Do you need the hope and encouragement that comes from the scriptures? Do you need to be a more diligent student in the Word of God?
You have all been so faithful to pray for our family. How can we pray for you??
We love you and are thankful for your prayers, love and concern. We are waiting on the promises of God to be fulfilled in healing our sweet son. Thank you for standing with us.
Steph
Saturday, December 3, 2011
Christmas Decorations and the Ultimate Preparation
Winter time in Colorado is my favorite season! This typically susprises people considering I was born and raised in New Orleans, Louisiana, where the seasons included cool weather (Winter - 50 degrees), warm weather (Spring - 60-70 degrees), hot weather (Summer 80+ degrees) and hot, hot, hot weather (90 - 100 degrees). It would "snow" in New Orleans every 10 years or so and would complete close the city due to the cold weather.
The past few days have been rather cold here due to our friends in Canada sharing the air! The weather channels begin giving the updates on the the timing of the weather change, the amount of snow to expect, etc., etc. On Thursday, our temperatures dropped 40 degrees from a lovely 60 degree day to lowering temperatures in the 20's! You could feel the air change and watch as the snow clouds began forming. It was time to make a pot of coffee, light the fireplace and enjoy the season!
While the weather change has begun I have started my Christmas decoration process! Being a decorator, this is not a normal process! It's an involved, detailed methodical plan where perfect color combination's are selected, carefully placed and executed. I love it! I love bringing the Christmas ambiance into our home.
While beginning my decoration planning, I began thinking about Mary (the mother of Jesus) and how she was preparing four weeks prior to the birth of her child. ( I realize that we do not have the exact date of Jesus' birth recorded and many believe Jesus was actually born in the spring, not winter. However, four weeks prior to having a new baby brings much preparation and anticipation in meeting your new baby.) Her situation was unique to any other birth as she was given the responsibility and honor to birthing Jesus, our Savior and Lord. Through scripture we understand that Mary was a very young woman (probably a teenager) and it's difficult to imagine what an extraordinary woman she must have been to have this responsibility trusted to her. She was trusted by God. God knew, in His infinite wisdom, that this young lady was equipped to handle the task.
When we stop and think about the hard things that come into our lives, do we consider that God is trusting us to walk through hardship and bring encouragement to others while accomplishing the task? Often times, we can get stuck in thinking "God, why me?" or "What have I done to deserve this?". I truly believe that we experience difficulty to accomplish many purposes for our lives BUT also because those in our lives are watching how we handle it and seeing a glimpse of God while we walk through.
Mary carried out a very difficult task, not only in the birth of Jesus but mothering him all the way to the cross. Her heart in obeying and honoring God is found in her first encounter when the angel revealed God's plan for her life:
Luke 1:26-38 (NIV)
The Birth of Jesus Foretold
26In the sixth month, God sent the angel Gabriel to Nazareth, a town in Galilee, 27to a virgin pledged to be married to a man named Joseph, a descendant of David. The virgin’s name was Mary. 28The angel went to her and said, “Greetings, you who are highly favored! The Lord is with you.”29Mary was greatly troubled at his words and wondered what kind of greeting this might be. 30But the angel said to her, “Do not be afraid, Mary, you have found favor with God. 31You will be with child and give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus. 32He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High. The Lord God will give him the throne of his father David, 33and he will reign over the house of Jacob forever; his kingdom will never end.”34″How will this be,” Mary asked the angel, “since I am a virgin?”
35The angel answered, “The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you. So the holy one to be born will be called the Son of God. 36Even Elizabeth your relative is going to have a child in her old age, and she who was said to be barren is in her sixth month. 37For nothing is impossible with God.”38″I am the Lord’s servant,” Mary answered. “May it be to me as you have said.” Then the angel left her.
"May it be to me as you have said" was Mary's response to what the Lord was asking her to accomplish. I love the scripture that says, "She was highly favored". In other words, she was trusted. As we know from the Bible stories of Mary, she carried out God's plan beautifully.
Let our answer to the Lord continue to be, "May it be to me as you have said". Yes, Lord, we will do whatever you ask us to do for you. You can trust us - no matter how difficult the task! In verse 37 it says, "For nothing is impossible with God". He is faithful.
Stephanie
The past few days have been rather cold here due to our friends in Canada sharing the air! The weather channels begin giving the updates on the the timing of the weather change, the amount of snow to expect, etc., etc. On Thursday, our temperatures dropped 40 degrees from a lovely 60 degree day to lowering temperatures in the 20's! You could feel the air change and watch as the snow clouds began forming. It was time to make a pot of coffee, light the fireplace and enjoy the season!
While the weather change has begun I have started my Christmas decoration process! Being a decorator, this is not a normal process! It's an involved, detailed methodical plan where perfect color combination's are selected, carefully placed and executed. I love it! I love bringing the Christmas ambiance into our home.
While beginning my decoration planning, I began thinking about Mary (the mother of Jesus) and how she was preparing four weeks prior to the birth of her child. ( I realize that we do not have the exact date of Jesus' birth recorded and many believe Jesus was actually born in the spring, not winter. However, four weeks prior to having a new baby brings much preparation and anticipation in meeting your new baby.) Her situation was unique to any other birth as she was given the responsibility and honor to birthing Jesus, our Savior and Lord. Through scripture we understand that Mary was a very young woman (probably a teenager) and it's difficult to imagine what an extraordinary woman she must have been to have this responsibility trusted to her. She was trusted by God. God knew, in His infinite wisdom, that this young lady was equipped to handle the task.
When we stop and think about the hard things that come into our lives, do we consider that God is trusting us to walk through hardship and bring encouragement to others while accomplishing the task? Often times, we can get stuck in thinking "God, why me?" or "What have I done to deserve this?". I truly believe that we experience difficulty to accomplish many purposes for our lives BUT also because those in our lives are watching how we handle it and seeing a glimpse of God while we walk through.
Mary carried out a very difficult task, not only in the birth of Jesus but mothering him all the way to the cross. Her heart in obeying and honoring God is found in her first encounter when the angel revealed God's plan for her life:
Luke 1:26-38 (NIV)
The Birth of Jesus Foretold
26In the sixth month, God sent the angel Gabriel to Nazareth, a town in Galilee, 27to a virgin pledged to be married to a man named Joseph, a descendant of David. The virgin’s name was Mary. 28The angel went to her and said, “Greetings, you who are highly favored! The Lord is with you.”29Mary was greatly troubled at his words and wondered what kind of greeting this might be. 30But the angel said to her, “Do not be afraid, Mary, you have found favor with God. 31You will be with child and give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus. 32He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High. The Lord God will give him the throne of his father David, 33and he will reign over the house of Jacob forever; his kingdom will never end.”34″How will this be,” Mary asked the angel, “since I am a virgin?”
35The angel answered, “The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you. So the holy one to be born will be called the Son of God. 36Even Elizabeth your relative is going to have a child in her old age, and she who was said to be barren is in her sixth month. 37For nothing is impossible with God.”38″I am the Lord’s servant,” Mary answered. “May it be to me as you have said.” Then the angel left her.
"May it be to me as you have said" was Mary's response to what the Lord was asking her to accomplish. I love the scripture that says, "She was highly favored". In other words, she was trusted. As we know from the Bible stories of Mary, she carried out God's plan beautifully.
Let our answer to the Lord continue to be, "May it be to me as you have said". Yes, Lord, we will do whatever you ask us to do for you. You can trust us - no matter how difficult the task! In verse 37 it says, "For nothing is impossible with God". He is faithful.
Stephanie
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
Never Forsaken!
Psalm 91: 14
Because he has set his love upon Me, therefore will I deliver him; I will set him on high, because he knows and understands My name [has a personal knowledge of My mercy, love, and kindness--trusts and relies on Me), knowing I will never forsake him, no, never.
I love Psalm 91 in it's entirety and especially love this verse. "I will never forsake him, no, never" is a powerful promise from God.
There are times when life will present circumstances where we may feel forgotten by God. Typically, when life becomes difficult and stressful, it can be tempting to wonder why we are facing difficulty.
I know in my own life, when difficulty arises I will stop and consider where the adversity has originated. It is the result of God desiring more of my attention? Is it the result of sin (consequences). Is it because I have allowed dysfunction / chaos in my life? Is adversity present because there are areas of maturity that I need in order to progress spiritually? Sometimes one aspect can be true and sometimes all aspects can be at work in my life at the same time. Whatever the reason, I dislike pressure from difficult times and will become proactive in getting past the test and enjoying the testimony that will follow.
No matter what may happen in our lives and regardless of the reason, the comfort we have is knowing God promises to never forsake us. He will never leave us - no matter what. He will be with us to provide strength, peace, wisdom, mercy and grace for the challenge, if we allow Him. God is quite intentional in His place in our lives and equally intentional in who we become in the process.
I'm thankful for the presence of God and pray His blessings in your life today.
Steph
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Stephanie Henderson
www.stephaniehendersonministries.com
Because he has set his love upon Me, therefore will I deliver him; I will set him on high, because he knows and understands My name [has a personal knowledge of My mercy, love, and kindness--trusts and relies on Me), knowing I will never forsake him, no, never.
I love Psalm 91 in it's entirety and especially love this verse. "I will never forsake him, no, never" is a powerful promise from God.
There are times when life will present circumstances where we may feel forgotten by God. Typically, when life becomes difficult and stressful, it can be tempting to wonder why we are facing difficulty.
I know in my own life, when difficulty arises I will stop and consider where the adversity has originated. It is the result of God desiring more of my attention? Is it the result of sin (consequences). Is it because I have allowed dysfunction / chaos in my life? Is adversity present because there are areas of maturity that I need in order to progress spiritually? Sometimes one aspect can be true and sometimes all aspects can be at work in my life at the same time. Whatever the reason, I dislike pressure from difficult times and will become proactive in getting past the test and enjoying the testimony that will follow.
No matter what may happen in our lives and regardless of the reason, the comfort we have is knowing God promises to never forsake us. He will never leave us - no matter what. He will be with us to provide strength, peace, wisdom, mercy and grace for the challenge, if we allow Him. God is quite intentional in His place in our lives and equally intentional in who we become in the process.
I'm thankful for the presence of God and pray His blessings in your life today.
Steph
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Stephanie Henderson
www.stephaniehendersonministries.com
Monday, November 28, 2011
I love Thanksgiving!
A blessed Thanksgiving holiday has successfully come to a close. After 32 pounds of turkey, dressing, sides and a plethora of desserts, we can definitely say that we "celebrated" Thanksgiving! We enjoyed the company of family and friends for the holiday and reflected on many areas for which we are thankful.
One of our family traditions is to share communion together. At the conclusion of our Thanksgiving feast, the glasses were passed with juice and bread was shared as we reflected on the life we are most thankful for...the life of Jesus. The first communion is recorded in the book of Luke, in the New Testament.
Luke 22: 14-20
14 When the hour came, Jesus and his apostles reclined at the table. 15 And he said to them, “I have eagerly desired to eat this Passover with you before I suffer. 16 For I tell you, I will not eat it again until it finds fulfillment in the kingdom of God.”
17 After taking the cup, he gave thanks and said, “Take this and divide it among you. 18 For I tell you I will not drink again from the fruit of the vine until the kingdom of God comes.”
19 And he took bread, gave thanks and broke it, and gave it to them, saying, “This is my body given for you; do this in remembrance of me.”
20 In the same way, after the supper he took the cup, saying, “This cup is the new covenant in my blood, which is poured out for you.
As our family shared the element of communion together, we talked about the love of Jesus and how thankful we were for His blessings. It's a very special time in our family and a tradition that I personally cherish. I love the intimacy that communion brings. I always think of my sweet "Ma" when we share communion.
"Ma" is George's mother who went to heaven a couple of years ago. She loved Thanksgiving! I miss her and miss wearing our aprons together while cooking in her kitchen while she would teach me some of the Henderson recipes. Our last Thanksgiving together, I made sweet potatoes because she loved them so much. During her last weeks with us here on earth, she would enjoy having communion together with her family. It was precious to her. It became even more precious to me while sharing it with her and our family in those final days.
Communion is more than bread and juice. Communion is agreeing together that there is a common bond as believers in Christ as we reflect upon the life of Jesus who was given for us. As a family, communion is where we stop the busyness of everyday life and share hearts and love for one another.
One thing I've learned in recent years is that life truly is short. I've learned to eat on the china rather than saving it for a special occasion. I've learned to forgive more easily and love more intentionally. While not perfect, I have tried to say the words that matter, and keep silent in sharing words that hurt. I've also realized that having a heart of thanksgiving is the secret to a joy-filled life.
In this Thanksgiving season, I am thankful for you. I'm thankful for the life we share together. I am thankful for my amazing husband, beautiful children, loving parents and family. I am most thankful for Jesus and the ability to share communion with the ones I love in remembrance of His sacrifice.
I hope you've had a blessed holiday filled with much Thanksgiving!
Stephanie
One of our family traditions is to share communion together. At the conclusion of our Thanksgiving feast, the glasses were passed with juice and bread was shared as we reflected on the life we are most thankful for...the life of Jesus. The first communion is recorded in the book of Luke, in the New Testament.
Luke 22: 14-20
14 When the hour came, Jesus and his apostles reclined at the table. 15 And he said to them, “I have eagerly desired to eat this Passover with you before I suffer. 16 For I tell you, I will not eat it again until it finds fulfillment in the kingdom of God.”
17 After taking the cup, he gave thanks and said, “Take this and divide it among you. 18 For I tell you I will not drink again from the fruit of the vine until the kingdom of God comes.”
19 And he took bread, gave thanks and broke it, and gave it to them, saying, “This is my body given for you; do this in remembrance of me.”
20 In the same way, after the supper he took the cup, saying, “This cup is the new covenant in my blood, which is poured out for you.
As our family shared the element of communion together, we talked about the love of Jesus and how thankful we were for His blessings. It's a very special time in our family and a tradition that I personally cherish. I love the intimacy that communion brings. I always think of my sweet "Ma" when we share communion.
"Ma" is George's mother who went to heaven a couple of years ago. She loved Thanksgiving! I miss her and miss wearing our aprons together while cooking in her kitchen while she would teach me some of the Henderson recipes. Our last Thanksgiving together, I made sweet potatoes because she loved them so much. During her last weeks with us here on earth, she would enjoy having communion together with her family. It was precious to her. It became even more precious to me while sharing it with her and our family in those final days.
Communion is more than bread and juice. Communion is agreeing together that there is a common bond as believers in Christ as we reflect upon the life of Jesus who was given for us. As a family, communion is where we stop the busyness of everyday life and share hearts and love for one another.
One thing I've learned in recent years is that life truly is short. I've learned to eat on the china rather than saving it for a special occasion. I've learned to forgive more easily and love more intentionally. While not perfect, I have tried to say the words that matter, and keep silent in sharing words that hurt. I've also realized that having a heart of thanksgiving is the secret to a joy-filled life.
In this Thanksgiving season, I am thankful for you. I'm thankful for the life we share together. I am thankful for my amazing husband, beautiful children, loving parents and family. I am most thankful for Jesus and the ability to share communion with the ones I love in remembrance of His sacrifice.
I hope you've had a blessed holiday filled with much Thanksgiving!
Stephanie
Wednesday, November 16, 2011
My Hot Husband Rocks!
My husband, George, has been conducting a business conference for the past few days. The majority of information shared at his conferences focuses on one of George's passions - leadership and leadership transformation. I've attended several of his conferences and take great pride in what he shares because I know the leader he is in our home as well as in the business world. Both are exceptional, in my unbiased opinion. :)
He leads our family through his relationship with the Lord. He prays, spends time learning the Word of God and spending time encouraging all of us to reach our fullest potential. He also leads with the integrity he possesses. Integrity is not something you choose from situation to situation. Integrity is something you choose in your very core that then spills over into other relationships and situations as well. This is true of George!
In honor of the man that leads our family with such passion, I would like to share some scriptures in honor of my amazing husband!
Genesis 18:19
For I have chosen him, so that he will direct his children and his household after him to keep the way of the LORD by doing what is right and just, so that the LORD will bring about for Abraham what he has promised him.
Exodus 18:21
But select capable men from all the people—men who fear God, trustworthy men who hate dishonest gain—
Proverbs 10:9
The man of integrity walks securely, but he who takes crooked paths will be found out.
Phillipians 4:8
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.
Proverbs 20:7
The righteous man leads a blameless life; blessed are his children after him.
Psalm 103:13
As a father has compassion on his children, so the LORD has compassion on those who fear him;
Proverbs 3:11-12
My son, do not despise the LORD's discipline and do not resent his rebuke, because the LORD disciplines those he loves,
as a father the son he delights in.
Proverbs 3:32
For the LORD detests a perverse man but takes the upright into his confidence.
Proverbs 17:24
A discerning man keeps wisdom in view, but a fool's eyes wander to the ends of the earth.
Proverbs 17:27
A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered.
James 1:27
Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.
George - thank you for being an incredible husband and father. You are the best! I adore you!
--
Stephanie Henderson
He leads our family through his relationship with the Lord. He prays, spends time learning the Word of God and spending time encouraging all of us to reach our fullest potential. He also leads with the integrity he possesses. Integrity is not something you choose from situation to situation. Integrity is something you choose in your very core that then spills over into other relationships and situations as well. This is true of George!
In honor of the man that leads our family with such passion, I would like to share some scriptures in honor of my amazing husband!
Genesis 18:19
For I have chosen him, so that he will direct his children and his household after him to keep the way of the LORD by doing what is right and just, so that the LORD will bring about for Abraham what he has promised him.
Exodus 18:21
But select capable men from all the people—men who fear God, trustworthy men who hate dishonest gain—
Proverbs 10:9
The man of integrity walks securely, but he who takes crooked paths will be found out.
Phillipians 4:8
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.
Proverbs 20:7
The righteous man leads a blameless life; blessed are his children after him.
Psalm 103:13
As a father has compassion on his children, so the LORD has compassion on those who fear him;
Proverbs 3:11-12
My son, do not despise the LORD's discipline and do not resent his rebuke, because the LORD disciplines those he loves,
as a father the son he delights in.
Proverbs 3:32
For the LORD detests a perverse man but takes the upright into his confidence.
Proverbs 17:24
A discerning man keeps wisdom in view, but a fool's eyes wander to the ends of the earth.
Proverbs 17:27
A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered.
James 1:27
Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.
George - thank you for being an incredible husband and father. You are the best! I adore you!
--
Stephanie Henderson
Sunday, November 13, 2011
Perfect Cheese Cake - Perfect Timing
Today, I would like to focus on a passage found in I Samuel. It's the story of Hannah and the birth of her son, Samuel. Hannah was married to Elkanah and was deeply troubled because she was unable to have children. In I Samuel, Chapter one, we find Hannah's dilemma unfold as she continues to pray and ask God to give her a child.
She is praying in view of the Priest, Eli where the text picks up in verse 12:
12 As she kept on praying to the LORD, Eli observed her mouth. 13 Hannah was praying in her heart, and her lips were moving but her voice was not heard. Eli thought she was drunk 14 and said to her, “How long are you going to stay drunk? Put away your wine.” 15 “Not so, my lord,” Hannah replied, “I am a woman who is deeply troubled. I have not been drinking wine or beer; I was pouring out my soul to the LORD. 16 Do not take your servant for a wicked woman; I have been praying here out of my great anguish and grief.” 17 Eli answered, “Go in peace, and may the God of Israel grant you what you have asked of him.” 18 She said, “May your servant find favor in your eyes.” Then she went her way and ate something, and her face was no longer downcast. 19 Early the next morning they arose and worshiped before the LORD and then went back to their home at Ramah. Elkanah had relations with his wife Hannah, and the LORD remembered her. 20 So in the course of time Hannah became pregnant and gave birth to a son. She named him Samuel,[b] saying, “Because I asked the LORD for him.”
Here we find Hannah in a desperate situation. She is so visibly troubled by her barrenness, that the Priest mistakes her despair for drunkenness.
Notice in the text it says, (Verse 20), "So in the course of time, Hannah became pregnant and gave birth to a son". The scripture does not give us the exact amount of time that Hannah waited in between her encounter with the priest and when she actually became pregnant. It could have been a minute, a day or months.
Have you ever felt desperate for God to answer your prayers? Have you prayed and prayed and seemingly God is not responding? I think we've all felt this way at one time or another.
I think many times when we pray and it seems like nothing happens, we mistake having an immediate result with whether or not God is moving. God is always working on our behalf for good. II Samuel, 22:31 says, ""As for God, his way is perfect; the word of the LORD is flawless. He is a shield for all who take refuge in him". God's timing is flawless. The preparation / process is as important as the outcome. Many times, we just want the outcome!
My father is an expert baker. Anyone who has eaten one of his famous cheesecakes knows this to be true. I have his recipes and have attempted baking his cheesecakes a few times. However, they never quite taste like his! I couldn't figure out why my baked goods were falling short until I spent time with my Dad and baked a cheesecake together. Dad removed the eggs, butter and cream cheese the night before baking to make sure they are the right temperature. He measures each ingredient perfectly in the measuring cup. The spring pans are methodically painted with shortening and flour to ensure that nothing sticks. The oven racks are placed at the exact height along with a container of water which makes sure that the cheesecake bakes evenly. The cooling process is apparently important in the overall texture of the cheesecake. As we did each of these steps together, I would marvel and say, "Really? This matters??". He would smile and say, "Yes, all of this matters". The preparation is as important as the outcome.
When God knows that my heart is mature and ready to receive the answer to my prayers, He answers. When everything is aligned in the will of God to act and answer, He does. God looks at the bigger picture, the people and situations involved and acts perfectly on behalf of the greater plan. In my shortsightedness, I don't understand why I have to wait for an answer, but when the answer finally comes, I always understand perfectly. And, just like enjoying a piece of my dad's cheesecake, I'm always thankful for the process in the end. The preparation is indeed as important as the result.
Philippians 1:6 says, "being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus".
Stephanie Henderson
She is praying in view of the Priest, Eli where the text picks up in verse 12:
12 As she kept on praying to the LORD, Eli observed her mouth. 13 Hannah was praying in her heart, and her lips were moving but her voice was not heard. Eli thought she was drunk 14 and said to her, “How long are you going to stay drunk? Put away your wine.” 15 “Not so, my lord,” Hannah replied, “I am a woman who is deeply troubled. I have not been drinking wine or beer; I was pouring out my soul to the LORD. 16 Do not take your servant for a wicked woman; I have been praying here out of my great anguish and grief.” 17 Eli answered, “Go in peace, and may the God of Israel grant you what you have asked of him.” 18 She said, “May your servant find favor in your eyes.” Then she went her way and ate something, and her face was no longer downcast. 19 Early the next morning they arose and worshiped before the LORD and then went back to their home at Ramah. Elkanah had relations with his wife Hannah, and the LORD remembered her. 20 So in the course of time Hannah became pregnant and gave birth to a son. She named him Samuel,[b] saying, “Because I asked the LORD for him.”
Here we find Hannah in a desperate situation. She is so visibly troubled by her barrenness, that the Priest mistakes her despair for drunkenness.
Notice in the text it says, (Verse 20), "So in the course of time, Hannah became pregnant and gave birth to a son". The scripture does not give us the exact amount of time that Hannah waited in between her encounter with the priest and when she actually became pregnant. It could have been a minute, a day or months.
Have you ever felt desperate for God to answer your prayers? Have you prayed and prayed and seemingly God is not responding? I think we've all felt this way at one time or another.
I think many times when we pray and it seems like nothing happens, we mistake having an immediate result with whether or not God is moving. God is always working on our behalf for good. II Samuel, 22:31 says, ""As for God, his way is perfect; the word of the LORD is flawless. He is a shield for all who take refuge in him". God's timing is flawless. The preparation / process is as important as the outcome. Many times, we just want the outcome!
My father is an expert baker. Anyone who has eaten one of his famous cheesecakes knows this to be true. I have his recipes and have attempted baking his cheesecakes a few times. However, they never quite taste like his! I couldn't figure out why my baked goods were falling short until I spent time with my Dad and baked a cheesecake together. Dad removed the eggs, butter and cream cheese the night before baking to make sure they are the right temperature. He measures each ingredient perfectly in the measuring cup. The spring pans are methodically painted with shortening and flour to ensure that nothing sticks. The oven racks are placed at the exact height along with a container of water which makes sure that the cheesecake bakes evenly. The cooling process is apparently important in the overall texture of the cheesecake. As we did each of these steps together, I would marvel and say, "Really? This matters??". He would smile and say, "Yes, all of this matters". The preparation is as important as the outcome.
When God knows that my heart is mature and ready to receive the answer to my prayers, He answers. When everything is aligned in the will of God to act and answer, He does. God looks at the bigger picture, the people and situations involved and acts perfectly on behalf of the greater plan. In my shortsightedness, I don't understand why I have to wait for an answer, but when the answer finally comes, I always understand perfectly. And, just like enjoying a piece of my dad's cheesecake, I'm always thankful for the process in the end. The preparation is indeed as important as the result.
Philippians 1:6 says, "being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus".
Stephanie Henderson
Friday, November 4, 2011
Taking Notice
My good friend, Karen learned earlier this year that she had cancer. I was so sad to learn that she was ill and had to go through surgery then a regiment of chemotherapy. We have continued to communicate with each other during her surgery and therapy. We have laughed and cried while sharing experiences, praying for needs and being friends through the process. Karen has been an incredible prayer warrior for our son James through his treatment as well.
She had a PET scan this week which would reveal the results of her six month chemotherapy treatment. She received word yesterday that her cancer is gone and her scan was "all clear". It was so great to be able to celebrate her healing and share the joy that she and her family are still experiencing. We are thrilled for this report!
I realized something very profound while I was thinking of Karen's experience. Two years ago if she would have shared this news with me, I would have felt sad and I definitely would have prayed for her because I love her so much. However, the depth of compassion that I have now for someone undergoing cancer treatment as opposed to two years ago is enormously different. Isn't it true that when "life" touches us in a profound way, we are forever changed?
The first time I noticed this change was in the grocery store 18 months ago, only weeks after James' initial diagnosis. I was strolling through the aisles in my usual fashion. While zipping in and out of the produce section, I noticed someone walking VERY slowly in front of me. I began to grow impatient and wondered why they were moving at a snail's pace in my speedy lane! As I was trying to move my basket around them, the Lord spoke to my heart and said, "Take notice of this person". It took me a second to move out of my impatience and actually look at the person in front of me. The person was a little older and wearing a knitted hat over an obvious chemo-induced balding head. Within seconds, my attitude of impatience was turned to an attitude of compassion and grace. I also found myself realizing how inwardly-focused I had become.
Since that time, I now take notice of people who might be wearing wigs or hats to cover their chemo-baldness and pray for their healing. I take time to stop, stoop down and speak to small children in wheelchairs or hold the door open for Mom's struggling with lots of children in tow. Believe me, I'm not sharing this to elevate myself, it's more the realization of how out of touch with others I had become before James' illness and the Lord's prompting to simply "notice" others.
Jesus notices us. He sees our struggles and knows our areas of anxiety and greatest need. He's never too busy or tired to listen when we pray. The word of God says that He has counted every hair on our head and knows us intimately. He knows us.
In Luke, Chapter 13, there is a beautiful story of Jesus noticing someone in need:
Luke 13:10-17 (New International Version)
Jesus Heals a Crippled Woman on the Sabbath
10 On a Sabbath Jesus was teaching in one of the synagogues, 11 and a woman was there who had been crippled by a spirit for eighteen years. She was bent over and could not straighten up at all. 12 When Jesus saw her, he called her forward and said to her, “Woman, you are set free from your infirmity.” 13 Then he put his hands on her, and immediately she straightened up and praised God.
I love the scene described in this story. Jesus was teaching in one of the synagogues. It was a rather typical setting for Jesus. As he's teaching, he notices this woman who was crippled and bent over. He calls her forward, places his hands on her and she immediately was healed. Jesus noticed her. He stopped his teaching and brought attention to her need and healed her physical ailment.
We have the opportunity to be the arms of Jesus to reach out to others who are hurting. We can speak words of encouragement, strength and love to those who need kindness. Through our words and actions, we can make a difference in other people's lives simply by stopping and noticing. Additionally, God will use the most difficult trial as a catalyst for grace for those around us who are experiencing the same struggle. I believe it's the miraculous work of God who can take anything, no matter how difficult it once was, and use it for good. I am so thankful for those who have been through difficulty and take time to share their wisdom gained with me.
Stephanie
She had a PET scan this week which would reveal the results of her six month chemotherapy treatment. She received word yesterday that her cancer is gone and her scan was "all clear". It was so great to be able to celebrate her healing and share the joy that she and her family are still experiencing. We are thrilled for this report!
I realized something very profound while I was thinking of Karen's experience. Two years ago if she would have shared this news with me, I would have felt sad and I definitely would have prayed for her because I love her so much. However, the depth of compassion that I have now for someone undergoing cancer treatment as opposed to two years ago is enormously different. Isn't it true that when "life" touches us in a profound way, we are forever changed?
The first time I noticed this change was in the grocery store 18 months ago, only weeks after James' initial diagnosis. I was strolling through the aisles in my usual fashion. While zipping in and out of the produce section, I noticed someone walking VERY slowly in front of me. I began to grow impatient and wondered why they were moving at a snail's pace in my speedy lane! As I was trying to move my basket around them, the Lord spoke to my heart and said, "Take notice of this person". It took me a second to move out of my impatience and actually look at the person in front of me. The person was a little older and wearing a knitted hat over an obvious chemo-induced balding head. Within seconds, my attitude of impatience was turned to an attitude of compassion and grace. I also found myself realizing how inwardly-focused I had become.
Since that time, I now take notice of people who might be wearing wigs or hats to cover their chemo-baldness and pray for their healing. I take time to stop, stoop down and speak to small children in wheelchairs or hold the door open for Mom's struggling with lots of children in tow. Believe me, I'm not sharing this to elevate myself, it's more the realization of how out of touch with others I had become before James' illness and the Lord's prompting to simply "notice" others.
Jesus notices us. He sees our struggles and knows our areas of anxiety and greatest need. He's never too busy or tired to listen when we pray. The word of God says that He has counted every hair on our head and knows us intimately. He knows us.
In Luke, Chapter 13, there is a beautiful story of Jesus noticing someone in need:
Luke 13:10-17 (New International Version)
Jesus Heals a Crippled Woman on the Sabbath
10 On a Sabbath Jesus was teaching in one of the synagogues, 11 and a woman was there who had been crippled by a spirit for eighteen years. She was bent over and could not straighten up at all. 12 When Jesus saw her, he called her forward and said to her, “Woman, you are set free from your infirmity.” 13 Then he put his hands on her, and immediately she straightened up and praised God.
I love the scene described in this story. Jesus was teaching in one of the synagogues. It was a rather typical setting for Jesus. As he's teaching, he notices this woman who was crippled and bent over. He calls her forward, places his hands on her and she immediately was healed. Jesus noticed her. He stopped his teaching and brought attention to her need and healed her physical ailment.
We have the opportunity to be the arms of Jesus to reach out to others who are hurting. We can speak words of encouragement, strength and love to those who need kindness. Through our words and actions, we can make a difference in other people's lives simply by stopping and noticing. Additionally, God will use the most difficult trial as a catalyst for grace for those around us who are experiencing the same struggle. I believe it's the miraculous work of God who can take anything, no matter how difficult it once was, and use it for good. I am so thankful for those who have been through difficulty and take time to share their wisdom gained with me.
Stephanie
Thursday, November 3, 2011
The Gift of Joy
This morning I woke up with a real sense of joy in my heart. The weather is beautiful here and it's my favorite time of year to live in Colorado. The leaves are still changing beautifully, Pike's Peak is covered in snow and the skies are the most beautiful shade of blue. It is really breathtaking! Also, the peace of God has remained with me and for that I am so thankful.
Having true joy is real gift. I meet people all the time who haven't experienced joy in decades. I think they've even forgotten what real joy truly is. I can always tell by the way they express themselves or share their life experiences that sadly, joy is missing.
There can be many things in life that attempt to rob our joy. Circumstances, relationships, disappointments, tragedy and unexpected news can all be areas where our joy can slowly drain away. I'm not suggesting that when we go through trials that we need to have a fake smile attitude and pretend that life is grand when it's not. That's not joy or happiness! It's unauthentic at best.
Joy is a deep undercurrent in our heart that continues to run no matter what circumstances we are facing. Joy is the realization that no matter what happens in our lives, God is in control and loves us and for that we can be thankful. I believe thankfulness and joy are related. No matter what else is going on around us, we can always find something for which to be thankful.
Happiness can be temporary. If ever you've raised a teenage daughter, you've seen happiness come and go rather quickly! Our daughter, Jessica was such a joy as a teenager (and still is today). Being the only girl in our family, she introduced us to the drama that only teenage girls experience! One moment, life would be great, terrific and amazing! Ten seconds later, the world was about to end due to a life-altering situation involving who is wearing what dress to prom! If we allowed ourselves, we could have also taken a ride on the hormonal roller coaster and based our family's overall happiness by the ever-changing drama of the cheer leading squad. Happiness comes and goes and can be as hormonal as a teenager.
If joy were a deep well, then happiness would be a rain puddle. We can continually to draw from a deep well, but a rain puddle comes and goes along with the weather. I want to be a person of real, deep joy in knowing that God is always working on my behalf for good and continue to have a thankful heart.- no matter what.
The Bible has many scriptures on joy! The word "joy" in the Bible is mentioned 165 times and the word "thank" is used 114 times. Here are a few of the rich scriptures based on the word "joy".
Therefore my heart is glad and my glory [my inner self] rejoices; my body too shall rest and confidently dwell in safety. Psalm 16: 9
O satisfy us with Your mercy and loving-kindness in the morning [now, before we are older], that we may rejoice and be glad all our days. Psalm 90:14
You have put more joy and rejoicing in my heart than [they know] when their wheat and new wine have yielded abundantly. Psalm 4:7
Rejoice in the Lord always [delight, gladden yourselves in Him]; again I say, Rejoice! Philippians 4:4
I was glad when they said to me, Let us go to the house of the Lord! Psalm 122:1
The Lord has done great things for us! We are glad! Psalm 126:3
But let all those who take refuge and put their trust in You rejoice; let them ever sing and shout for joy, because You make a covering over them and defend them; let those also who love Your name be joyful in You and be in high spirits. Psalm 5:11
Honor and majesty are [found] in His presence; strength and joy are [found] in His sanctuary. 1 Chronicles 16: 27
Let the heavens be glad and let the earth rejoice; and let men say among the nations, The Lord reigns! 1 Chronicles 16: 31
The Lord your God is in the midst of you, a Mighty One, a Savior [Who saves]! He will rejoice over you with joy; He will rest [in silent satisfaction] and in His love He will be silent and make no mention [of past sins, or even recall them]; He will exult over you with singing. Zephaniah 3: 17
Be happy [in your faith] and rejoice and be glad-hearted continually (always).
1 Thessalonians 5: 16
You will show me the path of life; in Your presence is fullness of joy, at Your right hand there are pleasures forevermore. Psalm 16: 11
Rejoice in the Lord, O you [uncompromisingly] righteous [you upright in right standing with God]; for praise is becoming and appropriate for those who are upright [in heart].
Psalm 33: 1
Sing to Him a new song; play skillfully [on the strings] with a loud and joyful sound.
Psalm 33: 3
Moreover [let us also be full of joy now!] let us exult and triumph in our troubles and rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that pressure and affliction and hardship produce patient and unswerving endurance.
Romans 5: 3
Have a joy-filled day!
Stephanie
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Stephanie Henderson
www.stephaniehendersonministries.com
Having true joy is real gift. I meet people all the time who haven't experienced joy in decades. I think they've even forgotten what real joy truly is. I can always tell by the way they express themselves or share their life experiences that sadly, joy is missing.
There can be many things in life that attempt to rob our joy. Circumstances, relationships, disappointments, tragedy and unexpected news can all be areas where our joy can slowly drain away. I'm not suggesting that when we go through trials that we need to have a fake smile attitude and pretend that life is grand when it's not. That's not joy or happiness! It's unauthentic at best.
Joy is a deep undercurrent in our heart that continues to run no matter what circumstances we are facing. Joy is the realization that no matter what happens in our lives, God is in control and loves us and for that we can be thankful. I believe thankfulness and joy are related. No matter what else is going on around us, we can always find something for which to be thankful.
Happiness can be temporary. If ever you've raised a teenage daughter, you've seen happiness come and go rather quickly! Our daughter, Jessica was such a joy as a teenager (and still is today). Being the only girl in our family, she introduced us to the drama that only teenage girls experience! One moment, life would be great, terrific and amazing! Ten seconds later, the world was about to end due to a life-altering situation involving who is wearing what dress to prom! If we allowed ourselves, we could have also taken a ride on the hormonal roller coaster and based our family's overall happiness by the ever-changing drama of the cheer leading squad. Happiness comes and goes and can be as hormonal as a teenager.
If joy were a deep well, then happiness would be a rain puddle. We can continually to draw from a deep well, but a rain puddle comes and goes along with the weather. I want to be a person of real, deep joy in knowing that God is always working on my behalf for good and continue to have a thankful heart.- no matter what.
The Bible has many scriptures on joy! The word "joy" in the Bible is mentioned 165 times and the word "thank" is used 114 times. Here are a few of the rich scriptures based on the word "joy".
Therefore my heart is glad and my glory [my inner self] rejoices; my body too shall rest and confidently dwell in safety. Psalm 16: 9
O satisfy us with Your mercy and loving-kindness in the morning [now, before we are older], that we may rejoice and be glad all our days. Psalm 90:14
You have put more joy and rejoicing in my heart than [they know] when their wheat and new wine have yielded abundantly. Psalm 4:7
Rejoice in the Lord always [delight, gladden yourselves in Him]; again I say, Rejoice! Philippians 4:4
I was glad when they said to me, Let us go to the house of the Lord! Psalm 122:1
The Lord has done great things for us! We are glad! Psalm 126:3
But let all those who take refuge and put their trust in You rejoice; let them ever sing and shout for joy, because You make a covering over them and defend them; let those also who love Your name be joyful in You and be in high spirits. Psalm 5:11
Honor and majesty are [found] in His presence; strength and joy are [found] in His sanctuary. 1 Chronicles 16: 27
Let the heavens be glad and let the earth rejoice; and let men say among the nations, The Lord reigns! 1 Chronicles 16: 31
The Lord your God is in the midst of you, a Mighty One, a Savior [Who saves]! He will rejoice over you with joy; He will rest [in silent satisfaction] and in His love He will be silent and make no mention [of past sins, or even recall them]; He will exult over you with singing. Zephaniah 3: 17
Be happy [in your faith] and rejoice and be glad-hearted continually (always).
1 Thessalonians 5: 16
You will show me the path of life; in Your presence is fullness of joy, at Your right hand there are pleasures forevermore. Psalm 16: 11
Rejoice in the Lord, O you [uncompromisingly] righteous [you upright in right standing with God]; for praise is becoming and appropriate for those who are upright [in heart].
Psalm 33: 1
Sing to Him a new song; play skillfully [on the strings] with a loud and joyful sound.
Psalm 33: 3
Moreover [let us also be full of joy now!] let us exult and triumph in our troubles and rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that pressure and affliction and hardship produce patient and unswerving endurance.
Romans 5: 3
Have a joy-filled day!
Stephanie
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Stephanie Henderson
www.stephaniehendersonministries.com
Wednesday, November 2, 2011
The Shoes Always Matter!
One of the joys in my life is teaching women how to embrace the purpose God has uniquely planned for their life. The catch phrase that I teach at our conferences is "Walk Out Your Destiny...in Stilettos, of course!". I love reminding women of who they are, why they are here, and encouraging them to recapture their femininity as well! I've had a great role model in my mom who was always fashionable and loved high heel shoes. So, this teaching comes quite naturally as does my love for a great pair of heels.
My love for shoes has been multiplied since becoming a Henderson. George has introduced me to such foreign shoes as hiking boots, snow shoes, shoes for sailing, rock climbing shoes, and trail shoes as well. Each are extremely important for being married to my rugged-outdoorsy husband. I refer to us as Indiana Jones meets Pollyanna.
When we were dating, I began joining George in his outdoor adventures. One afternoon, George invited me to go sailing with him. I was really excited especially since I had never sailed in my life. I remember showing up for our date in a cute outfit complete with a pair or high-heeled wedged sandals. As I was stepping onto the sailboat, I noticed George having a quizzical expression on his face. Naively, I jumped on the boat and thought my dreams of sitting on the sailboat watching the sunset were about to become a reality.
It wasn't long that I realized that there is very little romance in actual sailing. There was no pillow for me to sit upon while the boat magically cascaded through the water. I was suddenly thrust into feeling like Gilligan to the Skipper of the boat (George). I was quickly running back and forth from bow to stern pulling ropes (which had the muck of the water covering them), taking in anchors, tying knots in odd places and trying as best I could not to allow the boat to crash into the wharf while leaving the dock. Needless to say, the high heeled wedges were quickly thrown off in order to keep myself from plunging into the water or tripping over lines. After all, I was still trying to make a good impression!
Bottom line, the shoes matter.
Depending upon which area of journey you are facing, we need to wear the right pair of shoes to indeed "Walk in a manner worthy of our calling". If the path, so to speak, is rocky and rugged currently, you definitely need to wear your hiking boots and not flip flops!
Colossians 1: 9-14 says:
9 For this reason also, since the day we heard of it, we have not ceased to pray for you and to ask that you may be filled with the)knowledge of His will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, 10 so that you will walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, to please Him in all respects, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God; 11 strengthened with all power, according to His glorious might,for the attaining of all steadfastness and ]patience; joyously 12 giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified us to share in the inheritance of the saints in Light.
13 [j]For He rescued us from the domain of darkness, and transferred us to the kingdom of His beloved Son, 14 in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.
Notice the ingredients to successfully walk the course God has planned:
1) To be filled with the knowledge of His will (God's will for my life)
2) To have spiritual wisdom and understanding (Deeper truths)
3) Walk in a manner worthy of the Lord (Honoring)
4) To please Him in all respects (Pleasing God vs. pleasing others)
5) Bearing fruit in every good work (Our good works need to yield a harvest in other's lives)
6) Increasing in the knowledge of God (His ways, purposes, plans)
7) Strengthened with all power according to His glorious might (Not our strength or power - but His)
8) Attaining steadfastness and patience joyously (Joyous patience and diligence)
9) Giving thanks for the Father (Thankful heart)
10) Qualified us to share in the inheritance of the saints in Light (through our personal relationship with Him, we are adopted as His sons and daughters)
and finally, 11) He has rescued us from the domain of darkness, transferred us to the kingdom of His beloved Son, in whom we have redemption and forgiveness of sins.
As we walk out the destiny God has planned for us, we can do so with such power and strength! Taking each step, we can realize that God is with us and for us. And through His word, His strength, power and provision, He has made sure that we have everything we need in order to finish the course well...including a great pair of shoes.
Steph
My love for shoes has been multiplied since becoming a Henderson. George has introduced me to such foreign shoes as hiking boots, snow shoes, shoes for sailing, rock climbing shoes, and trail shoes as well. Each are extremely important for being married to my rugged-outdoorsy husband. I refer to us as Indiana Jones meets Pollyanna.
When we were dating, I began joining George in his outdoor adventures. One afternoon, George invited me to go sailing with him. I was really excited especially since I had never sailed in my life. I remember showing up for our date in a cute outfit complete with a pair or high-heeled wedged sandals. As I was stepping onto the sailboat, I noticed George having a quizzical expression on his face. Naively, I jumped on the boat and thought my dreams of sitting on the sailboat watching the sunset were about to become a reality.
It wasn't long that I realized that there is very little romance in actual sailing. There was no pillow for me to sit upon while the boat magically cascaded through the water. I was suddenly thrust into feeling like Gilligan to the Skipper of the boat (George). I was quickly running back and forth from bow to stern pulling ropes (which had the muck of the water covering them), taking in anchors, tying knots in odd places and trying as best I could not to allow the boat to crash into the wharf while leaving the dock. Needless to say, the high heeled wedges were quickly thrown off in order to keep myself from plunging into the water or tripping over lines. After all, I was still trying to make a good impression!
Bottom line, the shoes matter.
Depending upon which area of journey you are facing, we need to wear the right pair of shoes to indeed "Walk in a manner worthy of our calling". If the path, so to speak, is rocky and rugged currently, you definitely need to wear your hiking boots and not flip flops!
Colossians 1: 9-14 says:
9 For this reason also, since the day we heard of it, we have not ceased to pray for you and to ask that you may be filled with the)knowledge of His will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, 10 so that you will walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, to please Him in all respects, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God; 11 strengthened with all power, according to His glorious might,for the attaining of all steadfastness and ]patience; joyously 12 giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified us to share in the inheritance of the saints in Light.
13 [j]For He rescued us from the domain of darkness, and transferred us to the kingdom of His beloved Son, 14 in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.
Notice the ingredients to successfully walk the course God has planned:
1) To be filled with the knowledge of His will (God's will for my life)
2) To have spiritual wisdom and understanding (Deeper truths)
3) Walk in a manner worthy of the Lord (Honoring)
4) To please Him in all respects (Pleasing God vs. pleasing others)
5) Bearing fruit in every good work (Our good works need to yield a harvest in other's lives)
6) Increasing in the knowledge of God (His ways, purposes, plans)
7) Strengthened with all power according to His glorious might (Not our strength or power - but His)
8) Attaining steadfastness and patience joyously (Joyous patience and diligence)
9) Giving thanks for the Father (Thankful heart)
10) Qualified us to share in the inheritance of the saints in Light (through our personal relationship with Him, we are adopted as His sons and daughters)
and finally, 11) He has rescued us from the domain of darkness, transferred us to the kingdom of His beloved Son, in whom we have redemption and forgiveness of sins.
As we walk out the destiny God has planned for us, we can do so with such power and strength! Taking each step, we can realize that God is with us and for us. And through His word, His strength, power and provision, He has made sure that we have everything we need in order to finish the course well...including a great pair of shoes.
Steph
Sunday, August 21, 2011
The Need for Light!
I've been feeling rather "blah" lately. Demotivated, unfocused and general "ehh" mindset. It's not my nature, but it happens from time to time. I couldn't really figure out the source of this lack of motivation and to be honest, I didn't even want to explore the possible reasons.
I've got LOTS of work to do and am typically excited and ready to tackle any and all projects. When these times have come in the past, the impending deadlines will be the motivator to get busy - but not this time.
I listened to a worship song last night that someone posted online. The title was interesting and it was a song that was not familiar. As the words of the song played, I felt like my heart was melting. As I continued to listen, I was faced with this wave of emotion that I wasn't even in touch with.
The Lord began to speak to my heart and said, "Steph, you're tired." As that truth resonated in my heart, I knew it was the reason I've felt so demotivated.
To say that the last couple of years have been tough is a real understatement. I'm not one who likes pity or victimization - but, the reality of what we've been through has been incredibly hard. the truth is - I am tired. I think it was the first time that I've given myself permission to say it and feel it.
I sat there and wept while I expressed in prayer the places in my heart that I needed a fresh word and a fresh touch from the Lord. As I audibly expressed the needs in my heart to the Lord - He was silent. There was no revelation given at the moment, just silence. I knew that God, my Father, was simply listening, while I poured the feelings in my heart before Him.
This morning, I read John, chapter one that says,
"In the beginning the Word already existed, The Word was with God, and the Word was God. He existed in the beginning with God. God created everything through him and nothing was created except through him. The Word gave life to everything that was created and his life brought light to everyone. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness can never extinguish it"
In the span of my life, I've probably read this passage many, many times. However, this is what the Lord revealed to my heart through this passage this morning: "I have been there before you, I have been there with you and I am with you now. I am the one who gives life and I have created you to live a full life. The darkness (cancer, trials, tribulation, fear, sickness, disappointment, etc), can NEVER extinguish my light. I am bigger than any of these things and here to refresh the life within you."
I realized that though the past season, I've felt a little overwhelmed by the darkness of the trials. God was reminding me that no matter how dark, how difficult or how incredibly trying "life" may get sometimes, HE is greater, brighter and in control. Additionally, I needed a reminder of the life that is inside me that was created with full intention of being filled with light and not darkness.
God's word always meets me where I am I love that I can be honest and vulnerable with a Father who loves me completely and is there to speak the right word that He knows my heart needs to hear (even when I am not in touch with it!). I needed the reminder of light and life that God has for me. I also needed to say the things that were weighing my heart down to the one who could take the burden, replace it with His word and promise over my life.
I am thankful and He is so amazing -
Steph
I've got LOTS of work to do and am typically excited and ready to tackle any and all projects. When these times have come in the past, the impending deadlines will be the motivator to get busy - but not this time.
I listened to a worship song last night that someone posted online. The title was interesting and it was a song that was not familiar. As the words of the song played, I felt like my heart was melting. As I continued to listen, I was faced with this wave of emotion that I wasn't even in touch with.
The Lord began to speak to my heart and said, "Steph, you're tired." As that truth resonated in my heart, I knew it was the reason I've felt so demotivated.
To say that the last couple of years have been tough is a real understatement. I'm not one who likes pity or victimization - but, the reality of what we've been through has been incredibly hard. the truth is - I am tired. I think it was the first time that I've given myself permission to say it and feel it.
I sat there and wept while I expressed in prayer the places in my heart that I needed a fresh word and a fresh touch from the Lord. As I audibly expressed the needs in my heart to the Lord - He was silent. There was no revelation given at the moment, just silence. I knew that God, my Father, was simply listening, while I poured the feelings in my heart before Him.
This morning, I read John, chapter one that says,
"In the beginning the Word already existed, The Word was with God, and the Word was God. He existed in the beginning with God. God created everything through him and nothing was created except through him. The Word gave life to everything that was created and his life brought light to everyone. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness can never extinguish it"
In the span of my life, I've probably read this passage many, many times. However, this is what the Lord revealed to my heart through this passage this morning: "I have been there before you, I have been there with you and I am with you now. I am the one who gives life and I have created you to live a full life. The darkness (cancer, trials, tribulation, fear, sickness, disappointment, etc), can NEVER extinguish my light. I am bigger than any of these things and here to refresh the life within you."
I realized that though the past season, I've felt a little overwhelmed by the darkness of the trials. God was reminding me that no matter how dark, how difficult or how incredibly trying "life" may get sometimes, HE is greater, brighter and in control. Additionally, I needed a reminder of the life that is inside me that was created with full intention of being filled with light and not darkness.
God's word always meets me where I am I love that I can be honest and vulnerable with a Father who loves me completely and is there to speak the right word that He knows my heart needs to hear (even when I am not in touch with it!). I needed the reminder of light and life that God has for me. I also needed to say the things that were weighing my heart down to the one who could take the burden, replace it with His word and promise over my life.
I am thankful and He is so amazing -
Steph
Tuesday, June 7, 2011
New Season...New Stilettos Needed!
Our family just completed one of the most difficult seasons of life. We could not be happier to have this chapter closed and behind us!
Our youngest son, James, was re-diagnosed with Hodgkin's Lymphoma in December of 2010. To be exact, it was December 21, 2010. The reason the date is important is because it was one year earlier - December 21, 2009, that he was diagnosed the first time.
When the results of his PET scan were shared last year, we honestly did not have words to describe how we felt knowing that James would have to endure yet another round of grueling tests, treatment, and of course, the unknown. His oncologist shared that this course of treatment would include three more powerful regiments of chemotherapy and stem cell transplant. To be honest, the concept of stem cell transplant seemed like a dark hole that I didn't understand, didn't want to understand and certainly didn't want James to have to endure.
Within five weeks, the three chemotherapy treatments were hugely successful and James was in remission. His doctor was overwhelmed with how quickly the cancer was put to rest. It was hard to really celebrate this, because we knew that stem cell transplant would begin next. However, we were soooo thankful that James was in remission.
We had to relocate our family to Denver for six weeks while James went through the stem cell process. It's like a weird science of sorts in the way they harvest his stem cells, freeze them, then return them to his body. A weird science we were so thankful for as well!
The word "intense" mildly describes the six weeks we were in Denver while James was hospitalized for transplant. It seemed that everyday presented new, and quite intimidating challenges. The risk of infection, the side affects that could present as a result of the transplant and the chemotherapy he received, fevers, rashes, etc - became the urgent subject of the day. It was odd how simple things like a slight fever moved from being "normal" to severe if they presented because of the implications on James' immune system. All of which were out of our control - but were trusted into the hands of Christ, who remains in control when we are not.
I felt like our family was in a six week triathlon of sorts. Each day, new hurdles presented themselves, and we had to be in the "game" and keep going, no matter what. Through this season, we prayed, we trusted, we questioned, we feared, we cried, we laughed...we focused. The focus was on our Father, who loves James more than we ever could, and trusting that His ways are perfect and His plans for James' life are larger than test results, side affects, cancer...etc. That was the hard part.
James completed his six weeks of transplant and has recovered amazingly well. His recent PET scan (2 wks ago) showed that his body remains in remission. The young man that emerged from the fight of his life, is mature, confidant in Christ and steady in his faith. He was accepted to a ministry position internship in Houston Texas and has moved to begin this new step in his life. We are thrilled.
When James moved to Houston, I wondered what I would do with my life? We'd been through such a tumultuous time...now what? It was almost instantly that we went from doctor's appointments almost daily - to being released with only a three month check up.
I love teaching women how to "walk in a manner worthy of the Lord" in pursuing the plan and purpose God has for them...with stilettos, of course! I realized that this new season without cancer, tests, etc. was a season for me to also step into a new season asking the question, "What now, God?"
I truly believe that life is planned by the Almighty God. I believe that He walks with us, goes before us and cheers us as we step into His plan - even if His plan involves difficulty. No matter what is happening through circumstances in life, God remains in control. The secret is to trust God's heart - even when the circumstances or my logic doesn't align.
A new journey calls for new stilettos! I'm not sure how the Lord intends to use the past 2 years of trials, but I know that no pain is wasted. I also realize that our life circumstances don't define us, but the product of what we allow God to do - or don't allow God to do, through the circumstances always will.
The desire of my heart is to remain a woman who loves the Lord, who knows His love for me, and to walk in a manner worthy of my calling...no matter what. I am so thankful for my husband, George, who intensely loves our family and remained in prayer through this time and led with such strength and love. I am thankful for Jessica and John Mark who also prayed, trusted and stood with their brother through this time. I am thankful for our family - who loves the Lord and all of us so much. What a blessing family is! Our precious friends who texted, called, prayed and believed with us are so priceless to all of us. I am thankful for our church and leadership who loves our "tribe" and remained faithfully focused on praying us through this.
This new season holds many amazing things, I believe! I cannot wait to see what's next and how God will use this time of testing in all our lives.
In my NEW stilettos,
Steph
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
The Stiletto Project! New Conference Series for 2011
"The Stiletto Project" is our newest conference offering! By the title, many of you will already know why I am excited for this new concept. :)
My heart is to help women 1) understand how much God loves them 2) understand the word of God, and 3) understand and embrace the unique destiny God has planned. I believe that understanding these three basics will result in a purposeful life as God intended.
I use the term "walking out our destiny" quite frequently. It means, choosing daily who we are going to be - as well as who we are not going to be within the context of following God's plan. There are days when I'm just not "feeling it," so to speak. Sometimes I doubt, I have fear about really embracing what God has called me to do and I question the plan. "What if I fail?" is one of the questions that often times brings a level of trepidation in my heart and mind.
Isn't it true that many times, it's the "what ifs" that will make us hesitate and lack trust? "What if I do this...and it's the wrong thing?" or "What if I try this again and I get hurt?" are just a couple of the doubting questions that can enter our thoughts.
Instead of thinking "what if," try thinking, "and if." For instance, "And if I fail..." poses a question which allows for a natural response. The truth is, there are things in life that will not go the way we've planned. There will be people who will disappoint, hurt, offend, criticize no matter what. Why does it seem easier to dwell on possibilities of failure rather than consider possibilities of success?
If I understand the word of God at all, it clearly states over and again that His plans for us are good. Period. He never tricks us or leads us down a path without the final outcome being one of success. That being said, it doesn't mean that during the journey, we won't encounter trials and tests along the way. Oftentimes, we get stuck when the journey becomes tough and can find outselves questioning whether we heard from God at all! It always brings me comfort to know that God has planned each step, He holds my hand while I'm on the journey and has the finish mark in plain sight - even if I cannot see it.
With this truth in mind, we can then apply the "and ifs" of life to our questions! "And if I fail...God still will remain faithful," or "And if I get hurt in the process...God will heal my heart." Doesn't that bring a sense of peace rather than the anxiety of the "what ifs"?
As we introduce our new ministry concept in 2011, I covet your prayers. Believe me, the enemy is quick to remind me of the "what ifs" concerning this new venture.
God has placed some amazing women along my path! It is such an honor to share His goodness, His faithfulness and His grace everywhere I go. God loves us so much. He has a journey through this life that is to be walked out with purpose, courage and faith...and with stilettos, of course!
Steph
My heart is to help women 1) understand how much God loves them 2) understand the word of God, and 3) understand and embrace the unique destiny God has planned. I believe that understanding these three basics will result in a purposeful life as God intended.
I use the term "walking out our destiny" quite frequently. It means, choosing daily who we are going to be - as well as who we are not going to be within the context of following God's plan. There are days when I'm just not "feeling it," so to speak. Sometimes I doubt, I have fear about really embracing what God has called me to do and I question the plan. "What if I fail?" is one of the questions that often times brings a level of trepidation in my heart and mind.
Isn't it true that many times, it's the "what ifs" that will make us hesitate and lack trust? "What if I do this...and it's the wrong thing?" or "What if I try this again and I get hurt?" are just a couple of the doubting questions that can enter our thoughts.
Instead of thinking "what if," try thinking, "and if." For instance, "And if I fail..." poses a question which allows for a natural response. The truth is, there are things in life that will not go the way we've planned. There will be people who will disappoint, hurt, offend, criticize no matter what. Why does it seem easier to dwell on possibilities of failure rather than consider possibilities of success?
If I understand the word of God at all, it clearly states over and again that His plans for us are good. Period. He never tricks us or leads us down a path without the final outcome being one of success. That being said, it doesn't mean that during the journey, we won't encounter trials and tests along the way. Oftentimes, we get stuck when the journey becomes tough and can find outselves questioning whether we heard from God at all! It always brings me comfort to know that God has planned each step, He holds my hand while I'm on the journey and has the finish mark in plain sight - even if I cannot see it.
With this truth in mind, we can then apply the "and ifs" of life to our questions! "And if I fail...God still will remain faithful," or "And if I get hurt in the process...God will heal my heart." Doesn't that bring a sense of peace rather than the anxiety of the "what ifs"?
As we introduce our new ministry concept in 2011, I covet your prayers. Believe me, the enemy is quick to remind me of the "what ifs" concerning this new venture.
God has placed some amazing women along my path! It is such an honor to share His goodness, His faithfulness and His grace everywhere I go. God loves us so much. He has a journey through this life that is to be walked out with purpose, courage and faith...and with stilettos, of course!
Steph
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
The Calm in the Midst of the Storm
During the series of events last week, I was reminded of Jesus' encounter with the disciples in the boat...during a storm. What's interesting to me is that Jesus slept during the storm while those around him panicked, operated in fear and tried to solve the problem themselves. However, Jesus slept. He wasn't sleeping lightly - the disciples actually had to go below and wake him up in order to help with the storm surrounding. He slept. He rested. He knew that God was in control of the wind, rain, lightening and thunder. He slept. Others panicked.
This past week has been a storm. There's really not another way to capture the week rather than simply stating the truth. It was hard. It was painful. It was surreal - but also very, very tangible.
James had a week of tests, more tests, blood work, two surgery procedures and finally the first chemotherapy treatment. It was a storm. We are in a battle, that is very clear. We are challenged to trust the Lord and stand firm in who He is in the midst of this. While we stand in faith of the power of Christ to deliver through this, in our hearts / emotions we fluctuate from hope to fear at times. It's the "what ifs?" that cause the fluctuation.
Watching our 20 year old son navigate through this new present reality has been both painful and amazing. We have seen the fruit of James' personal realtionship with Christ bring strength to himself as well as to others who are watching. We have received emails of both those who have cancer and those who are healthy that have been encouraged by his approach to this diagnosis.
When in a storm, we think it's wrong to question or wonder why we are experiencing the hardship. I believe that questioning the "why's" of our storm can be the most powerful time as a believer. Why? Because when we are vulnerable with our true self as we bring those concerns before the Lord, asking the hard questions, we are then forced to wait for His answer. His answer is always filled with peace, purpose and destiny. Those answers provide the strength, courage and faith we need in order to take the next step in the journey.
When the disciples woke Jesus, it doesn't say that he was angry with them for asking for help or for being fearful. It was a REAL storm! He simply replied, "Where is your faith?". In other words, Jesus is reminding them of who He is, how powerful He is and reminding them of that very truth. There is no way Jesus would have been asleep if he thought that the disciples lives would have been endangered. That would be in opposition to the very heart of God. He reminded them to trust - not fear. It's difficult when in the moment to forget that God ultimately knows the outcome and can be trusted. He is a good Father. He is faithful, true and knows nothing other than integrity to who He is.
That truth speaks loudly as we are in this season. I have shared with others that we feel as though we are in the eye of the storm. The calm and peace are surrounding us while this situation is raging around us. It is the "perfect" storm, in my opinion.
The bottom line is...God is in control. He is not pacing, wringing His hands together in fear over this situation with James. He is resting. He is at peace. He is interceding for us. He knows what He is capable of performing in this storm.
My hope at the end of this journey is that we all come out of this refined and more filled with an understanding of peace and provision of Christ that we have ever known. The young man that I dedicated to the Lord 20 years ago still belongs to the Lord. We cannot surrender and control at the same time. (although I would like to:)
Thank you for your prayers in our journey. We had great news in the bone marrow results - no cancer in the bone! Amen and hallelujah! James is still in Stage 3 Hodgkin's - but we are thankful that it is not Stage 4. God has shown himself mighty in this!
Walking through the storm...in stilettos, of course!
Steph
This past week has been a storm. There's really not another way to capture the week rather than simply stating the truth. It was hard. It was painful. It was surreal - but also very, very tangible.
James had a week of tests, more tests, blood work, two surgery procedures and finally the first chemotherapy treatment. It was a storm. We are in a battle, that is very clear. We are challenged to trust the Lord and stand firm in who He is in the midst of this. While we stand in faith of the power of Christ to deliver through this, in our hearts / emotions we fluctuate from hope to fear at times. It's the "what ifs?" that cause the fluctuation.
Watching our 20 year old son navigate through this new present reality has been both painful and amazing. We have seen the fruit of James' personal realtionship with Christ bring strength to himself as well as to others who are watching. We have received emails of both those who have cancer and those who are healthy that have been encouraged by his approach to this diagnosis.
When in a storm, we think it's wrong to question or wonder why we are experiencing the hardship. I believe that questioning the "why's" of our storm can be the most powerful time as a believer. Why? Because when we are vulnerable with our true self as we bring those concerns before the Lord, asking the hard questions, we are then forced to wait for His answer. His answer is always filled with peace, purpose and destiny. Those answers provide the strength, courage and faith we need in order to take the next step in the journey.
When the disciples woke Jesus, it doesn't say that he was angry with them for asking for help or for being fearful. It was a REAL storm! He simply replied, "Where is your faith?". In other words, Jesus is reminding them of who He is, how powerful He is and reminding them of that very truth. There is no way Jesus would have been asleep if he thought that the disciples lives would have been endangered. That would be in opposition to the very heart of God. He reminded them to trust - not fear. It's difficult when in the moment to forget that God ultimately knows the outcome and can be trusted. He is a good Father. He is faithful, true and knows nothing other than integrity to who He is.
That truth speaks loudly as we are in this season. I have shared with others that we feel as though we are in the eye of the storm. The calm and peace are surrounding us while this situation is raging around us. It is the "perfect" storm, in my opinion.
The bottom line is...God is in control. He is not pacing, wringing His hands together in fear over this situation with James. He is resting. He is at peace. He is interceding for us. He knows what He is capable of performing in this storm.
My hope at the end of this journey is that we all come out of this refined and more filled with an understanding of peace and provision of Christ that we have ever known. The young man that I dedicated to the Lord 20 years ago still belongs to the Lord. We cannot surrender and control at the same time. (although I would like to:)
Thank you for your prayers in our journey. We had great news in the bone marrow results - no cancer in the bone! Amen and hallelujah! James is still in Stage 3 Hodgkin's - but we are thankful that it is not Stage 4. God has shown himself mighty in this!
Walking through the storm...in stilettos, of course!
Steph
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
The Journey - With Stilettos!
As I write this post, I can hardly believe the steps of the journey we are now embracing. My youngest son, James, is now in surgery to have a port installed in his chest as well as a bilateral bone marrow biopsy.
A few days before Christmas, James went to the doctor for what we thought was kidney or gallstone pain. Within hours, we learned that James has Lymphoma. We were stunned, speechless, sad, but completely surrounded by this unexplainable peace.
It was very surreal for both George and me to watch our son as the doctor shared information about having cancer. I thought, "Cancer?", certainly this cannot be real. As I watched James' face while receiving this news, I was filled with many thoughts. This is the same little boy that I carried, birthed, baked cookies, watched graduate, mentored, disciplined, and most of all loved deeply. No longer a child, but a man navigating his way through life with everything ahead of him. His journey is now encompassing a season that we did not anticipate - which includes cancer.
So many times, life will take twists and turns that we don't expect and honestly do not want. This would be one of those times. During the past two weeks, we have had opportunity to try and wrap our minds around this news and the journey that now is ahead. James has Hodgkin's Lymphoma and will undergo six months of chemotherapy. While the prognosis is excellent, the road ahead will be challenging on many levels.
Friends and family have asked me, "Stephanie, what word has the Lord given to you in this?". Those who know me well, know that the Lord often provides a specific word for me to stand on while going through seasons such as these. My reply was very simple, "The Lord has reminded me that 'He is mighty in battle'". Maybe not as profound as some might expect, but none the less, this truth has impacted my heart on so levels.
"He is mighty in battle". The Lord reminded me that this is a battle - something serious and something which to be engaged. It is a physical, spiritual and emotional battle. As I have mediated on this phrase, the Lord has also reminded me that "He has trained our hands for war". In other words, we are equipped and prepared to handle this - as is James. Thirdly, the awesome reminder that He, the King of Kings, Lord of Lords, is MIGHTY. He is not forgetful, weak, filled with fear, or even surprised with this news. He is mighty. He is victorious - every time. He doesn't lose or even have weak people on His team.
God holds us. God is good. He is faithful and true. Just because our journey has taken an unexpected turn, does not mean that God has changed, only the circumstances in which He will make himself known....as mighty.
As a Christian women's speaker, my heart and "banner" is to teach / impart to women the indescribable love that God has for them, to walk in victory (wearing stilettos if at all possible), and to walk out their personal destiny without fear - but with confidence and boldness.
As I walk through this season with my son and family, I am reminded of the very same truths from which I minister. God loves us more than we could ever realize, that we will walk this out in victory and boldness, and will capture this part of our destiny with the boldness and confidence. God is able. And of course, I am wearing stilettos for the journey. :) I am his daughter and I am thankful for the Father and His extravagant love for me and for our whole family.
Wearing stilettos,
Stephanie
A few days before Christmas, James went to the doctor for what we thought was kidney or gallstone pain. Within hours, we learned that James has Lymphoma. We were stunned, speechless, sad, but completely surrounded by this unexplainable peace.
It was very surreal for both George and me to watch our son as the doctor shared information about having cancer. I thought, "Cancer?", certainly this cannot be real. As I watched James' face while receiving this news, I was filled with many thoughts. This is the same little boy that I carried, birthed, baked cookies, watched graduate, mentored, disciplined, and most of all loved deeply. No longer a child, but a man navigating his way through life with everything ahead of him. His journey is now encompassing a season that we did not anticipate - which includes cancer.
So many times, life will take twists and turns that we don't expect and honestly do not want. This would be one of those times. During the past two weeks, we have had opportunity to try and wrap our minds around this news and the journey that now is ahead. James has Hodgkin's Lymphoma and will undergo six months of chemotherapy. While the prognosis is excellent, the road ahead will be challenging on many levels.
Friends and family have asked me, "Stephanie, what word has the Lord given to you in this?". Those who know me well, know that the Lord often provides a specific word for me to stand on while going through seasons such as these. My reply was very simple, "The Lord has reminded me that 'He is mighty in battle'". Maybe not as profound as some might expect, but none the less, this truth has impacted my heart on so levels.
"He is mighty in battle". The Lord reminded me that this is a battle - something serious and something which to be engaged. It is a physical, spiritual and emotional battle. As I have mediated on this phrase, the Lord has also reminded me that "He has trained our hands for war". In other words, we are equipped and prepared to handle this - as is James. Thirdly, the awesome reminder that He, the King of Kings, Lord of Lords, is MIGHTY. He is not forgetful, weak, filled with fear, or even surprised with this news. He is mighty. He is victorious - every time. He doesn't lose or even have weak people on His team.
God holds us. God is good. He is faithful and true. Just because our journey has taken an unexpected turn, does not mean that God has changed, only the circumstances in which He will make himself known....as mighty.
As a Christian women's speaker, my heart and "banner" is to teach / impart to women the indescribable love that God has for them, to walk in victory (wearing stilettos if at all possible), and to walk out their personal destiny without fear - but with confidence and boldness.
As I walk through this season with my son and family, I am reminded of the very same truths from which I minister. God loves us more than we could ever realize, that we will walk this out in victory and boldness, and will capture this part of our destiny with the boldness and confidence. God is able. And of course, I am wearing stilettos for the journey. :) I am his daughter and I am thankful for the Father and His extravagant love for me and for our whole family.
Wearing stilettos,
Stephanie
Tuesday, January 8, 2008
Welcome to our Girlfriends Blog
Welcome to our "Girlfriends Blog". This site is designed to provide articles of interest and relevance to women. We will discuss topics such as relationships, fashion, marriage, career, family, decorating, self image, fashion, decorating, health and exercise - and much more!
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Stephanie Henderson
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